Tuesday, September 24, 2013
It's another morning.... I have to go to office.
WHAT???? This is me!!! I shouted seeing my picture in the newspaper. But what the HELL is it doing in the obituary column??
One sec... Let me think, last night when I went to bed I had severe pain in my chest, but I don't remember anything after that, I think I had sound sleep.
Its morning now, oh... It's already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee? I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to shout at me.
Where is everyone? I screamed.
"I think there is a crowd outside my room, let me check." I said to myself.
So many people... Not all of them are crying. But why are some of them crying.
WHAT IS THIS??? I'm lying there on a bed in the drawing room!!!!
"I AM HERE”. I shouted!!! No one listened.
"LOOK I AM NOT DEAD”. I screamed once again!!! No one was interested in me.
They were all looking at me lying on the bed.
I went back to my bed room.
"Am I dead??" I asked myself.
Where are my wife, my children, my mom-dad, my friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying. Still trying to console each other.
My wife was crying. She was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his mom was sad.
How can I go without telling my kid that I really love him, I really do care for him....??
How can I go without telling my wife that she is really the most beautiful and the most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without telling my parents that I am what I am just because of them...??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them, perhaps I would have
Done wrong things in life- thanks for being there always
When I needed them. And sorry for not being there when they really needed me..
I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears. Oh, he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both never let go off our egos....
I went there.. And offered him my hand, "Dear friend. I just want to say sorry for everything, we are still good friends, please forgive me."
No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego. I am saying sorry, even then!!! I really don't care for such people.
But one sec.. It seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand.
My goodness. AM I REALLY DEAD???
I just sat down next to MYSELF; I also felt like crying.
"OH GOD!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS."
I just want to tell my wife, my parents, my kid and my friends how much I love them.
My wife entered the room, she looks beautiful.
"YOU'R BEAUTIFUL" I shouted.
She didn't hear my words, in fact she has never heard these words from me, coz I have never told her.
"GOD!!!!" I screamed. a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.. I cried.
One more chance please-to hug my child, to make my mom smile.. just once, to make my dad feel proud of me at least for a moment..., to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not told and done for them-inspite of that for still being there for me..
Then I looked up and cried!!!!
"GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!"
"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did you have a nightmare?"
I was sleeping..??!!!
Oh that was just a dream..??!!
My wife was there. She could hear me.
This was the happiest moment in my life!!
I hugged her and whispered.. "U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN
THIS UNIVERSE.. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR"
I just couldn’t understand that in spite of a smile on her face she had tears in her eyes...
I was so HAPPY!!!!!
"THANK YOU GOD FOR GIVING ME ANOTHER CHANCE!!!"
It's not late.. Forget your egos, forget all that has happened....., and just express your love to others.... Be friendly..... Keep smiling and be happy for ever. .
Rough and stressful days are quite a common phenomenon for most of us. We know we need to slow down, take a breath, but it is hard to know how and even harder to get started. For that purpose, here is a list of 30 simple daily tips that will help you relax, one step at a time.
Try to implement these suggestions for at least one month, integrate them into your daily routine, until you don't even have to think about them. Suddenly, you may realize you got a lot more relaxed in your day to day.
Get into a rhythm. Energetic music increases the flow of blood and oxygen in the body, which does wonders for the heart. But if you are feeling stressed and worried, it might be better to listen to some slower music that will slow the blood flow and will allow you to feel relaxed.
Ohm meditation can reduce the blood pressure as well as the risk of heart disease by 47%. Research from 2009 found that people who meditated for 3 months felt less anxious, angry and depressed than those who did not.
Fetus position. Stop for five minutes in the hustle and bustle of the day and go into a fetal or mouse position. Close your eyes and allow yourselves to relax and let go.
Laughter is the best medicine. Take some time every day to laugh at something. Share a funny memory or a funny joke. Watch a funny movie. The relaxing effect will be felt immediately.
With more than 7000 nerve endings in your hands and feet, a visit to the beauty salon may provide you with some relief, not only a pretty look.
Drink at least 8 cups of water a day!
Borrowing in the sheets provides a whole row of health benefits, including better confidence and less stress. It releases endorphin and promotes good, sound sleep.
Stop being obsessive about tasks and schedules. The world won't come to an end if you forgot to do the dishes today.
Yoga postures that focus on bending the back and opening the chest, allow oxygen to flow more freely to the lungs, thus reducing heart beat and blood pressure.
Dark chocolate is good not only for the heart, but can also be a relaxing treatment of stress. A Swiss research found that a small amount of dark chocolate a day reduces high levels of stress hormones among an anxious group of participants.
Today, remind yourselves to breath!
Get a good massage. Not only does is promote deep relaxation but also strenghthens the immunity system and helps release the muscles.
It's ok to cry. Today, let the tears flow. Most people admit they feel better after crying.
Have a long bath with some scents and oils. It will definitely make you feel better.
Go outside and sit on the grass for awhile.
Surround yourselves with blue. Paint a room, buy some blue clothes. Blue has been found to be the most relaxing of all the colors.
Settle a dispute. It feels good to help others let go of their anger.
Schedule a break. Take a break during work and don't do anything with it but closing your eyes and relaxing.
Make one step at a time. If the list of tasks looks long, focus on one thing only on the list and ask yourselves:"What is the one thing I can do right now?"
The fleshy part between the index finger and the thumb is called by Chinese medicine: "hoku". Press it strongly for about 30 seconds to reduce stress and tension in the upper body. .
Research shows that a lack of omega-3 in the body, fatty acids and essential vitamins can cause mood swings. Today, try to eat a Mediterranean meal and see the difference.
Today do something fun and different. Join a course, take a new route home or just treat yourself to something you usually don't.
Today, allow yourself at least a few hours of no phones, no internet, no communication of any kind. Learn to be disconnected sometimes.
Today, invest in at least one strong embrace!
Plan a fun and special weekend for you to go on soon.
A good nap. Pressure can be caused by sleepless nights. Today, allow yourself a 30 minute nap in the middle of the day.
Find another place besides work and home to visit today!
Research shows that the simple act of smiling makes us feel happier. Yes, even fake smiling.
Start a 'worry journal'. Open a notebook and write all the bad thoughts going around your head. A worry journal will allow you to focus on the stress causers and wipe them out.
Take today to appreciate what you have and encourage yourselves. This will make it easier to start all the tips again next month!
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Employee "A" in a company walked up to his manager and asked what my job is for the day? The manager took "A" to the bank of a river and asked him to cross the river and reach the other side of the bank. "A" completed this task successfully and reported back to the manager about the completion of the task assigned. The manager smiled and said "GOOD JOB"
Next day Employee "B" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task as above to this person also. The Employee "B' before starting the task saw Employee "C" struggling in the river to reach the other side of the bank. He realized "C" has the same task. Now "B" not only crossed the river but also helped "C" to cross the river. "B" reported back to the manager and the manager smiled and said "VERY GOOD JOB"
The following day Employee "Q" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again. Employee "Q" before starting the work did some home work and realized "A", "B" & "C" all has done this task before. He met them and understood how they performed. He realized that there is a need for a guide and training for doing this task. He sat first and wrote down the procedure for crossing the river, he documented the common mistakes people made, and tricks to do the task efficiently and effortlessly. Using the methodology he had written down he crossed the river and reported back to the manager along with documented procedure and training material. The manger said "Q" you have done an "EXCELLENT JOB".
The following day Employee "O' reported to the manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again. "O" studied the procedure written down by "Q" and sat and thought about the whole task. He realized company is spending lot of money in getting this task completed. He decided not to cross the river, but sat and designed and implemented a bridge across the river and went back to his manager and said, "You no longer need to assign this task to any one". The manager smiled and said "Outstanding job 'O'. I am very proud of you."
What is the difference between A, B, Q & O? Many a times in life we get tasks to be done at home, at office, at play.,
Most of us end up doing what is expected out of us. Do we feel happy? Most probably yes. We would be often disappointed when the recognition is not meeting our expectation. Let us compare ourselves with "B". Helping someone else the problem often improves our own skills. There is an old proverb (I do not know the author) "learn to teach and teach to learn". From a company point of view "B" has demonstrated much better skills than "A" since one more task for the company is completed.
"Q" created knowledge base for the team. More often than not, we do the task assigned to us without checking history. Learning from other's mistake is the best way to improve efficiency. This knowledge creation for the team is of immense help. Re-usability reduces cost there by increases productivity of the team. "Q" demonstrated good "team-player" skills,
Now to the outstanding person, "O" made the task irrelevant; he created a Permanent Asset to the team.
If you notice B, Q and O all have demonstrated "team performance" over and above individual performance; they have also demonstrated a very invaluable characteristic known as "INITIATIVE".
Initiative pays of everywhere whether at work or at personal life. If you have initiative you will succeed. Initiative is a continual process and it never ends. This is because this year's achievement is next year's task. You cannot use the same success story every year. The story provides an instance of performance, where as measurement needs to be spread across at least 6-12 months. Consequently performance should be consistent and evenly spread. Out-of-Box thinkers are always premium and that is what everyone constantly looks out for. Initiative, Out-of-Box thinking and commitment are the stepping stone to success.
Initiative should be lifelong. Think of out of the box…..Happy Working
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Thursday, March 21, 2013
Last spring I was walking in a park. A short distance ahead of me was a mom and her three-year-old daughter. The little girl was holding on to a string that was attached to a helium balloon.
All of a sudden, a sharp gust of wind took the balloon from the little girl. I braced myself for some screaming and crying.
But, no! As the little girl turned to watch her balloon go skyward, she gleefully shouted out, "Wow!"
I didn't realize it at that moment, but that little girl taught me something.
Later that day, I received a phone call from a person with news of an unexpected problem. I felt like responding with "Oh no, what should we do?" But remembering that little girl, I found myself saying, "Wow, that's interesting! How can I help you?"
One thing's for sure - life's always going to keep us off balance with its unexpected problems. That's a given. What's not preordained is our response. We can choose to be frustrated or fascinated.
No matter what the situation, a fascinated "Wow!" will always beat a frustrated "Oh, no."
So the next time you experience one of life's unexpected gusts, remember that little girl and make it a "Wow!" experience. The "Wow!" response always works . .
Sunday, January 20, 2013
I always hated it. The dark feeling that I always hate kept on coming when I am alone. It all started when I heard a story…..
Rain pattered on the window sill as I looked wearily at my brother, Pranav, as he listened to his I-pod. I went to him and asked him to tell me a story. He sneered at me in an evil kind of way. He started this very scary story. Once upon a time, there was a man eating Cannibal. He looks for small boys and chops them to pieces and eats them with deserts made by blood. He said he might appear anywhere and cut even me into small pieces. I shuddered at the thought of being chopped. I kept thinking about this story the whole day.
I could not sleep well that night. The Cannibal man kept on coming in my dreams, chopping my head, my hands, my legs and happily laughing while doing so. He even laughed out loud that the whole world can hear.
I woke up hearing a strange noise in the kitchen. It was very sick. I went down to have a look. Lo and behold! It was the Cannibal again! He came towards me, swinging his machete. Suddenly his hand stretched and gripped me hard, not wanting to leave me. I shivered until my heart moved to my brain. The evil man plunged his machete into my heart!!!!! Ahhhhhhh!!!!! I shouted as loud as a thunder. Blackness fell over me.
Darren! Darren! Wake up!! Time to get up! I woke up. I wanted to scream. I could not believe that I was alive there lying on my bed. Was that just a dream? I couldn’t believe it. I brushed my teeth and had breakfast. Mom and Dad went to work. My brother Pranav was already off to his friend’s house. I….was….alone!
I ran up to do my homework. As I was doing my work, I heard a muffled sound, but I did not care. It came again, I slowly started shivering. I stood up, feeling very scared. I heard it again; I screamed and ran to the corner. It kept on coming until I called my mom. After she picked up I stammered, “Mom!!! I am scared! Please come home now! I cannot stay alone!” My mom paused for a while and then said, “Darren, you are grown up. You cannot be scared like this. Mmmm… ok! Do this. There is a small God statue in the right side shelf. Take it and keep it next to you. Pray God and you will be safe for sure. Trust me! I will try to come home faster.”
After the call, I tiptoed to the right side shelf that my mom mentioned, and I took the God statue carefully and tiptoed back to my room. I still heard the sound but this time it was getting feeble and feeble. I started getting more confident and felt braver. Pranav came back home first before lunch. We both had lunch together and did our homework together. I wasn’t thinking of the Cannibal again that day.
But whenever I am forced to be alone, I feel terrorized little bit and whenever I feel so, I run to the right side shelf to take the God statue and tell to myself “All is well! All is well!”
- written by my son Pranav
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
My Dear Friends,
Every beginning will have an end. Every journey will have a destination. Every individual will have a cup which can hold certain amount of experience.
I know now that my cup can hold just this much of experience (46 years). I do not want to stretch myself to infinity. Instead I want to live within my limitations.
Metaphorically speaking, each one of us has a cup-like receptor that takes in experiences. It is not for us to determine the size. That cup can hold all the experiences of a lifetime and overflow. If we are not stingy and small minded, we will welcome many good experiences and goodness always overflows naturally.
There have been many seasons in my life. When the going was good, my cup of joy was full. When the way ahead was hard, my cup of sorrow was full. Sometimes there was so much of excitement and enthusiasm, that there was an overflow. Other times the road was dry and barren. I did manage to fall into pot holes of stagnancy. When the way was uphill, I was held by supporting hands. When I tasted the calm and tranquility of peaceful hours, I was as it was lulled into a quiescent state of being.
It was by divine design that I was a human being with limitations. My cup of life was meant to hold just this much, not more. I was made to be comfortable in the environment around me. Like fish struggling on land and completely ease in water, I too was made to flourish in certain circumstances and not in others.
The cup that overflows is the cup of joy and peace. These cannot be contained. They are infectious, as is in the laughter of little children. With such joy there can be no comparisons. It overcomes boundaries and barriers and enfolds others.
I was not made to overcome great heights, but to rise above small hills and mountains. I have been content and happy with small achievements. That was as much as my cup of life could hold. Whenever I have gone beyond myself, my cup was overflowed.
All the empowerment I have experienced in my life has come because these were the memories my cup could hold. Deep self-doubt was thus converted to deep self-confidence. The empowerment came not from unlimited exposure but from limited experiences that are part of every human being’s life.
Today I count myself lucky that my cup has been able to hold this much. I do not aspire for the impossible. I have my faults, failings, foibles and my share of mistakes. I am imperfect and in many ways flawed. So I do not need to prove myself over and over again. I do not need to impress others. I can be just natural, without formality or pretense. I can be bold in what I do and say – knowing that my world view is mine, not necessarily the same as another’s.
As I continue on the pathway, I am not distracted by things that do not figure in my life priorities anyhow. There are many things that I can still do for others, despite my limitations. By doing these, I take in what my cup of life can hold and then my cup overflows with joy, contentment and happiness.
You can always contact me for any good cause. If I can fill your cup with joy I am honoured. If you fill mine with joy I am blessed.
You will certainly come to know my exact date of relieving soon and I am sure you will there to say Good Bye to me that day.
May God Bless you all and fill your cups with joy and happiness till it overflows.
This is the letter he sent to his friends after he submitted his resignation... 65 year old man!