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14 நவம்பர் 2011, 07:02 க்குஇல் Ravi Nagஆல் எழுதப்பட்டது
நான் இதுவரை பெர்ஸ்னலாக எந்த ஒரு உதவியும் கேட்டதில்லை. ஆனால் இந்த நோட்ஸை நீங்கள் முடிந்த வரை பகிர்வது தான் நான் இப்பொழுது கேட்க்கும் ஒரு மாபெரும் உதவி.
ஆம் இந்த சிறுவர் தினத்தில் "இலவச ஆன்லைன் கல்வி"க்காக நான் ஆறு மாத உழைப்பில் இந்த பணியை செய்துள்ளேன். இது தான் ஆரம்பம். ஆம் ஒன்றாம் வகுப்பில் இருந்து +2 வகுப்பு வரை - ஆங்கிலம் மற்றும் தமிழ் மீடியம் படிக்கும் மற்ற படிக்க முடியாத மாணவர்களுக்கு இந்த சேவை மிகவும் பயனுள்ளதக இருக்கும். இந்த சமச்சீர் கல்வி ஆன்லைன் எஜுக்கேஷனில் 1 - 12 வகுப்பு பாடங்கள், மற்றூம் ஆசிரியர் பயிற்ச்சி ஆங்கில, தமிழ் பாட புத்தகங்கள், செவிலியர் பயிற்ச்சி ஆங்கில மற்றூம் தமிழ் பாடங்கள், மாதிரி வினா தாள்கள், 2009 / 2010 / தேர்வு கேள்விதாள்கள் மற்றூம் இன்னும் நிறைய படிப்பு சம்பந்தமான புத்தகங்களை இனிமேல் இலவசமாக டவுன்லோட் செய்து படிக்கலாம். இதை ஆரம்பிக்கும் எண்ண்மும் அதன் பயன்பாடும்......
1. இனிமேல் உங்கள் குழந்தை பள்ளியை தவிர வேறு எங்கு சென்றாலும் பொதியை சுமக்க தேவையில்லை.
2. நீங்கள் எதாவது ஒரு காரணத்திற்க்காக வெளியூர் சென்றாலும் ஆன்லைனில் படிக்கவும் படிப்பு சொல்லி கொடுக்கவும் மிகவும் எளிதானது.
3. புத்தகங்கள் தொலைந்து விட்டால் உடனே புத்தகம் வாங்க அல்ல்து தெட அவசியமில்லை. இங்கு அனைத்து புத்தகங்களின் டிஜிட்டல் காபி உள்ளது.
4. ஏதாவது ஒரு பாடத்தில் சந்தேகம் இருந்தால் உடனே அந்த பக்கத்தை "பேஜ் மார்க்" செய்து ஆசிரியர்க்கோ அல்ல்து பெற்றோருக்கோ அனுப்பினால் அவர்கள் அங்கு நோட்ஸ் போட்டு உடனே பதிலை அனுப்பினால் உங்களுக்கு மட்டும் அந்த பக்கங்கள் கிடைக்கும்.
5, பரிட்ச்சை முடிந்தவுடன் அடுத்த வருஷ சிலபஸுக்காக வெயிட் பண்ண தெவையில்லை. இங்கு அடுத்த வருடத்திற்க்கான புத்தகம் உடனே எடுத்து விடுமுறையில் பயிற்ச்சி செய்யலாம்.
6. மாதிரி வினாத்தாள் மற்றூம் மாடல் கொஸ்டீன் பேப்பர் மற்றூம் கடந்த உரண்டு வருட கேள்விதாள் இங்கு உங்களுக்காக வைக்கபட்டுள்ளது. அதனால் நன்கு பயிற்ச்சி செய்யலாம்.
7. முக்கியமாக வெளி நாட்டில் உள்ள இந்தியர்கள் இந்த புத்தகத்தை அல்ல்து தமிழ் புத்தகங்களை இலவசமாக லாகின் செய்து தங்கள் குழந்தைகளுக்கு பாடம் நடத்தலாம்.
8. பள்ளீ மற்றும் டுட்டோரியல் கல்லூரிகளில் "புரஜக்டர்" மூலம் இனைத்தால் இந்த ஈ புத்தகத்தை பெரிய திரையில் காண்பித்து எல்லொரும் படிக்க ஏதுவாக இருக்கும்.
9. இந்த ஆன்லைன் இப்பொழுது தமிழக முதல்வர் கொடுத்திருக்கும் இலவச மடிகணனி வழியாக படிக்க நல்ல ஒரு வாய்ப்பு.
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மிக சீக்கிரம் வீடியோ கிளாஸஸ் தொடங்க உள்ளோம். மற்றூம் உலகில் உள்ள அனைத்து கல்வியாளர்களின் டிப்ஸ் வார பாட திட்டம், வர்ச்சுவல் கிளாஸ் ரூம் அனைத்து வசதியும் படி படியாக செயல்படுத்துவேன்.
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தயவு செய்து என் நெடுநாள் கணவான இந்த இலவச ஆன்லைன் கல்வி போர்ட்டலை கொண்டு செல்ல உதவுங்கள்.
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Thursday, November 17, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Confidence and Humility
One of the rarest combinations in the human personality is the co-existence of confidence and humility.
Often people who are confident are not humble and people with humility are not confident.
Confidence blended with humility is most appreciated by everybody.
Question:
How can confidence be developed in one who is humble and humility in one who is confident?
Answer:
1. When you see your life from a bigger context of time and space, then you realize your life is nothing.
2. When you are humble you need to see that you are unique and dear to the Divine, which brings confidence, and when you realize you are insignificant, that brings confidence.
3. When you have a guru, you cannot be arrogant. Your guru gives you confidence and also brings humility in you. The weakness in humility and the arrogance in confidence are removed.
You are left with confidence and humility!
Often people who are confident are not humble and people with humility are not confident.
Confidence blended with humility is most appreciated by everybody.
Question:
How can confidence be developed in one who is humble and humility in one who is confident?
Answer:
1. When you see your life from a bigger context of time and space, then you realize your life is nothing.
2. When you are humble you need to see that you are unique and dear to the Divine, which brings confidence, and when you realize you are insignificant, that brings confidence.
3. When you have a guru, you cannot be arrogant. Your guru gives you confidence and also brings humility in you. The weakness in humility and the arrogance in confidence are removed.
You are left with confidence and humility!
Monday, November 14, 2011
Begin LIFE at 50/60 .../70/80
Many people feel unhappy, health-wise and security-wise, after 50/60 70/80
years of age owing to the diminishing importance given to them and their
opinions. But, it need not be so, if only we understand the basic principles
of life and follow them scrupulously.
Here are ten mantras to age gracefully, make life after retirement pleasant, enjoy and treasure the elder years of wisdom and intelligence at its best.
1. Never say 'I am aged':
There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The
first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by
the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we
don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good
diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic
thinking can reverse the third age.
2. Health is wealth:
If you really love your kids and kin, taking care of yourself and your
health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have
an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Take out a health care insurance coverage.
3. Money is important:
Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good
health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your
means even for your children. You have lived for them through out and it is
time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are
grateful they should take care of you. But never take it for granted.
4. Relaxation and recreation:
The most relaxing and recreating forces are healthy and religious attitudes,
good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well,
love good music, and see the fun side of life.
5. Time is precious:
It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands,
you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is
a payed cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash —
use it profitably. Live this moment.
6. Change is the only permanent thing:
We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense
out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant
things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.
7. Enlightened selfishness:
All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in
return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But, our
focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing
good to others, without expecting anything in return.
8. Forget and forgive:
Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual
enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped on one cheek. But, for the sake
of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise,
we will only be increasing our BP.
9. Everything has a reason; a purpose:
Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others
for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in their own ways.
10. Overcome the fear of death:
We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid
of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand
our loss. But, the truth is that no one is going to die for you; they may be
depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.
NOBODY GETS OUT OF THIS WORLD ALIVE!
Regardless How Far The Journey Is OR How Capable We Are, We Do Our Best To
Reach Our Goal. This Is Perseverance At Its Best ...
years of age owing to the diminishing importance given to them and their
opinions. But, it need not be so, if only we understand the basic principles
of life and follow them scrupulously.
Here are ten mantras to age gracefully, make life after retirement pleasant, enjoy and treasure the elder years of wisdom and intelligence at its best.
1. Never say 'I am aged':
There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The
first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by
the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we
don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good
diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic
thinking can reverse the third age.
2. Health is wealth:
If you really love your kids and kin, taking care of yourself and your
health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have
an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Take out a health care insurance coverage.
3. Money is important:
Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good
health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your
means even for your children. You have lived for them through out and it is
time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are
grateful they should take care of you. But never take it for granted.
4. Relaxation and recreation:
The most relaxing and recreating forces are healthy and religious attitudes,
good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well,
love good music, and see the fun side of life.
5. Time is precious:
It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands,
you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is
a payed cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash —
use it profitably. Live this moment.
6. Change is the only permanent thing:
We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense
out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant
things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.
7. Enlightened selfishness:
All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in
return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But, our
focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing
good to others, without expecting anything in return.
8. Forget and forgive:
Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual
enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped on one cheek. But, for the sake
of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise,
we will only be increasing our BP.
9. Everything has a reason; a purpose:
Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others
for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in their own ways.
10. Overcome the fear of death:
We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid
of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand
our loss. But, the truth is that no one is going to die for you; they may be
depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.
NOBODY GETS OUT OF THIS WORLD ALIVE!
Regardless How Far The Journey Is OR How Capable We Are, We Do Our Best To
Reach Our Goal. This Is Perseverance At Its Best ...
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Two Lions
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two Lions inside us all.
"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which lion wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
He said, "My son, the battle is between two Lions inside us all.
"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which lion wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
Excellence!
A tourist once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making, an idol of God.
Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby.
Surprised, he aked the sculptor Do you need two statues of the same idol ?
"No said the sculptor without looking up, We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.
The gentleman examined the idol and found, no apparent damage.
Where is the damage? he asked.
"There is a scratch on the nose of the idol, said the sculptor still busy with his work.
".Where are you going to install the idol ?"
The sculptor replied that would be installed on, a pillar twenty feet high.
"If the idol is that far who is going to know, that there is a scratch on the nose"? the genleman asked....
The sculptor stopped his work, look up at the, gentleman smiled and said I will know it"
The desire to excel is exclusive of the fact whether someone else appreciates it or not.
"Excellence " is a drive from inside not outside...
Excellence is not for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction and efficency...
Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby.
Surprised, he aked the sculptor Do you need two statues of the same idol ?
"No said the sculptor without looking up, We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.
The gentleman examined the idol and found, no apparent damage.
Where is the damage? he asked.
"There is a scratch on the nose of the idol, said the sculptor still busy with his work.
".Where are you going to install the idol ?"
The sculptor replied that would be installed on, a pillar twenty feet high.
"If the idol is that far who is going to know, that there is a scratch on the nose"? the genleman asked....
The sculptor stopped his work, look up at the, gentleman smiled and said I will know it"
The desire to excel is exclusive of the fact whether someone else appreciates it or not.
"Excellence " is a drive from inside not outside...
Excellence is not for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction and efficency...
Monday, November 7, 2011
My thoughts on "Velayutham"
Velayutham proved again that there is unseen power that will do wonders unexpectedly. Craze for Vijay was completely seen in theaters. Even after one week of release, the theater was full and whistling when Vijay entered and at some of his dialogue deliveries. People have started seeing him as next to Rajanikanth (May be I am seeing him also like that?...Not sure!) It was 80% comedy and 30% seriousness. I liked the way it was picturised. Brother-Sister relationship was shown neatly and to the limit that it can/shoud be shown. I felt Hansika was out of the scope. Would have been better if they had decided on some other heroine. Genelia's Character was nicely framed. Vijay's acting experience shows nicely and he shines in all the expression he makes. Dialogues length was at good pace rather than his usualy never ending dialogues. Did not feel like getting up in between the movie and that should be complemented as one of the best attempt by the director Raja. Train Sequence was attracting compared to all of the other fight sequences. An effort has been made not to make it too cinematic and they wanted things to look as real. I think this idea did come through but at some scenes I did feel unrealistic. How can a person kill so many just like that and justify for his actions?. The theme taken was good and I hope it did not give any worst ideas to any terrorist. I would give 8 out of 10 for this movie. If you love Vijay, If you are looking for a 2 hours of complete witticism entertainment, Watch Velayutham. It would be worth the time spent.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Excellent Thoughts
Almost five years ago, Carol and I interviewed a fascinating neuropsychologist named Rick Hanson for our book, Happy for No Reason. Rick brilliantly explained how a “happy brain” works. He shared with us the great analogy that our brains are like Velcro for the negative, but Teflon for the positive – the negatives stick to us while the positives tend to slide right off. More importantly, he shared simple ways we can reverse that negativity bias.
I’ve continued to be a huge fan of Rick and his work—we even began a book together. I avidly read Rick’s “just one thing” articles, which are wonderful short pieces about easy, powerful practices that can make a big difference in our happiness and well-being levels. In today’s ezine, I’d love to share one of my favorite “just one thing” ideas that I think you’ll find really helpful.
Here are Rick’s wise words about “Don’t Take It Personally” (excerpted from his wonderful new book called Just One Thing):
Here’s an updated parable from the ancient Taoist teacher Chuang-Tzu: Imagine that you are floating in a canoe on a slow-moving river, having a Sunday picnic with a friend. Suddenly there is a loud thump on the side of the canoe, and it rolls over. You come up sputtering, and what do you see? Somebody has snuck up on your canoe, flipped it over for a joke, and is laughing at you. How do you feel?
Okay. Now imagine the exact same situation again: the picnic in a canoe, loud thump, dumped into the river, coming up sputtering, and what do you see? A large submerged log has drifted downstream and bumped into your canoe. This time, how do you feel?
The facts are the same in each case: cold and wet, picnic ruined. But when you think you’ve been targeted personally, you probably feel worse. The thing is, most of what bumps into us in life—including emotional reactions from
others, traffic jams, illness, or mistreatment at work—is like an impersonal log put in motion by ten thousand causes upstream.
Say a friend is surprisingly critical toward you. It hurts, for sure, and you’ll want to address the situation, from talking about it with the friend to disengaging from the relationship.
But also consider what may have caused that person to bump into you, such as misinterpretations of your actions; health problems, pain, worries or anger about things unrelated to you; temperament, personality, childhood experiences; the effects of culture, economy, or world events; and causes back upstream in time, like how his or her parents were raised.
Recognize the humbling yet wonderful truth: most of the time, we are bit players in other people’s dramas.
When you look at things this way, you naturally get calmer, put situations in context, and don’t get so caught up in me-myself-and-I. Then you feel better, plus more clearheaded about what to do.
How?
To begin with, have compassion for yourself. Getting smacked by a log is a drag. Also take appropriate action. Keep an eye out for logs heading your way, try to reduce their impact, and repair your “boat”—relationship, health,
finances, career—as best you can. And maybe think about finding a new river!
Additionally:
1. Notice when you start to take something personally. Be mindful of what that feels like—and also what it feels like to relax the sense of being personally targeted.
2. Be careful about making assumptions about the intentions of others. Maybe they didn’t do it “on purpose.” Or maybe there was one not-so-good purpose aimed at you that was mixed up with a dozen other purposes.
3. Reflect on some of the ten thousand causes upstream. Ask yourself: What else could be in play here? What’s going on inside the other person’s mind and life? What’s the bigger picture?
4. Beware getting caught up in your “case” about other people, driven by an inner prosecutor that keeps pounding on all the ways they’re wrong, spoke badly, acted unfairly, picked on you, really really harmed you, made you suffer, etc., etc. It’s good to see others clearly, and there’s a place for moral judgment—but case-making is a kind of obsessing that makes you feel worse and more likely to overreact and create an even bigger problem.
5. Try to have compassion for the other people. They’re probably not all that happy, either. Having compassion for them will not weaken you or let them off the moral hook; actually, it will make you feel better.
And—really soak up the sense of strength and peacefulness that comes from taking life less personally.
As a recovering “personalizer,” I love this reminder from Rick. Try applying these ideas over the next days and see how you relax and enjoy your life more.
Marci
P.S.
Want more great practices like this? Check out Rick Hanson’s new book, Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time.
The book presents 52 practices – simple actions inside your mind – that light up neural networks of deep well-being and resilience. And because “neurons that fire together, wire together,” each time you do a practice, it strengthens key neural circuits like building a muscle in the gym.
Each practice is grounded in modern neuroscience, positive psychology, Rick’s background in the very real world of business and raising a family. Each bite-size chapter introduces a new practice, explains why it’s important, and shows you how to do it.
I’ve continued to be a huge fan of Rick and his work—we even began a book together. I avidly read Rick’s “just one thing” articles, which are wonderful short pieces about easy, powerful practices that can make a big difference in our happiness and well-being levels. In today’s ezine, I’d love to share one of my favorite “just one thing” ideas that I think you’ll find really helpful.
Here are Rick’s wise words about “Don’t Take It Personally” (excerpted from his wonderful new book called Just One Thing):
Here’s an updated parable from the ancient Taoist teacher Chuang-Tzu: Imagine that you are floating in a canoe on a slow-moving river, having a Sunday picnic with a friend. Suddenly there is a loud thump on the side of the canoe, and it rolls over. You come up sputtering, and what do you see? Somebody has snuck up on your canoe, flipped it over for a joke, and is laughing at you. How do you feel?
Okay. Now imagine the exact same situation again: the picnic in a canoe, loud thump, dumped into the river, coming up sputtering, and what do you see? A large submerged log has drifted downstream and bumped into your canoe. This time, how do you feel?
The facts are the same in each case: cold and wet, picnic ruined. But when you think you’ve been targeted personally, you probably feel worse. The thing is, most of what bumps into us in life—including emotional reactions from
others, traffic jams, illness, or mistreatment at work—is like an impersonal log put in motion by ten thousand causes upstream.
Say a friend is surprisingly critical toward you. It hurts, for sure, and you’ll want to address the situation, from talking about it with the friend to disengaging from the relationship.
But also consider what may have caused that person to bump into you, such as misinterpretations of your actions; health problems, pain, worries or anger about things unrelated to you; temperament, personality, childhood experiences; the effects of culture, economy, or world events; and causes back upstream in time, like how his or her parents were raised.
Recognize the humbling yet wonderful truth: most of the time, we are bit players in other people’s dramas.
When you look at things this way, you naturally get calmer, put situations in context, and don’t get so caught up in me-myself-and-I. Then you feel better, plus more clearheaded about what to do.
How?
To begin with, have compassion for yourself. Getting smacked by a log is a drag. Also take appropriate action. Keep an eye out for logs heading your way, try to reduce their impact, and repair your “boat”—relationship, health,
finances, career—as best you can. And maybe think about finding a new river!
Additionally:
1. Notice when you start to take something personally. Be mindful of what that feels like—and also what it feels like to relax the sense of being personally targeted.
2. Be careful about making assumptions about the intentions of others. Maybe they didn’t do it “on purpose.” Or maybe there was one not-so-good purpose aimed at you that was mixed up with a dozen other purposes.
3. Reflect on some of the ten thousand causes upstream. Ask yourself: What else could be in play here? What’s going on inside the other person’s mind and life? What’s the bigger picture?
4. Beware getting caught up in your “case” about other people, driven by an inner prosecutor that keeps pounding on all the ways they’re wrong, spoke badly, acted unfairly, picked on you, really really harmed you, made you suffer, etc., etc. It’s good to see others clearly, and there’s a place for moral judgment—but case-making is a kind of obsessing that makes you feel worse and more likely to overreact and create an even bigger problem.
5. Try to have compassion for the other people. They’re probably not all that happy, either. Having compassion for them will not weaken you or let them off the moral hook; actually, it will make you feel better.
And—really soak up the sense of strength and peacefulness that comes from taking life less personally.
As a recovering “personalizer,” I love this reminder from Rick. Try applying these ideas over the next days and see how you relax and enjoy your life more.
Marci
P.S.
Want more great practices like this? Check out Rick Hanson’s new book, Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time.
The book presents 52 practices – simple actions inside your mind – that light up neural networks of deep well-being and resilience. And because “neurons that fire together, wire together,” each time you do a practice, it strengthens key neural circuits like building a muscle in the gym.
Each practice is grounded in modern neuroscience, positive psychology, Rick’s background in the very real world of business and raising a family. Each bite-size chapter introduces a new practice, explains why it’s important, and shows you how to do it.
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